dear cvm,
my birthday fell on september 13 this year, like it does every stinking year. and as you can imagine, there wasnt much of a party going on. that same week my gal pal was helping put on awards show that she had been working on for the last few months. i stayed in that evening with ben and jerry. the thing is, she was totally pissed at me because i wasnt there for her big night. she's okay about it now, but jeez, i didnt even have a party for my own retchid birthday. and doesnt she see what bad taste a gala evening seems during such a sober time? has she no class?
-woman in black
dear wib,
i can see how that whole thing
went down, but the real problem here has more to do with the latest ism;
society's trend towards 'grief decorum'. this repulses me. for instance,
an unamed famous actress had decided not to attend a recent awards show,
citing it would seem 'inappropriate, at this time, for her to do so'.
now, i dont think she lost any close friends or relatives on t-day, so
in effect, she was also passing judgement on the entire bloody show and
all its participants for getting on with their lives. instead of allowing
months, and sometimes years of their life's work to go down the tubes.
inappropriate indeed. enough of this more greif-stricken-than-tho attitude.
decide that you are not up to an event, and stick to it on the grounds
that you would rather not. but if someone else wants to take their mind
off the fear and the pain, or just keep themselves busy, then who are
we to judge? sounds like that show was really important to your pal, and
it sounds like you dont even like birthdays, so why should she stop depending
on you just because it might be the end of the world? i think thats when
real friends are supposed to kick in.
besides, both the president and the mayor of n.y. said 'get out there
and spend!'. i, for one, am going shopping.
p.s. what a virgo.
x cvm
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